He'll huff and he'll puff - my intro

[ladylu]

Ugh. He just tried to have a talk and in so doing violated two boundaries I recently established that he agreed to - no right before sleep R talks and he came to my bedroom to do it.
So he was asking if I have come to a decision. I said I have pulled down the pdfs from the state website about D and S. He seemed kind of confused by my response. I said that's what you want me to do right? He said yes. I said I am trying to work through it all. It has only been a week and I have had a lot going on.
He has been sleeping on the bed in the spare room that doubles as the kids playroom. It makes him so angry. I've suggested moving SS14 into the office. I would move to that bedroom and he could have the master but he doesn't want to give up the office.
It is so strange. Since BD in January we have been getting along really well except for the R convos. In fact before he left on his trip and before I started DR we had a convo where he said what's going on... I said you tell me if you are done and want a D your behavior is very confusing. At that point he had started kissing me when I left for work, etc after all of 2013 he had been just mean. He agreed and said he would change his behavior to be less confusing and that when he got back in town he would research apartments.
After he got back we had the other conversation where he wanted me to tell him, what? My opinion on D or S? And also he feels like he wants to get a 5 bedroom house rather than a small apartment and wants my opinion on that.
Anyway I have been detaching, GAL, 180. I also have had a breast cancer scare these last 2 weeks (he doesn't know) which has really put in focus how I want to live each day to the fullest for what it is and not be so attached to worrying about what is down the road.
I have seen a surprising number of baby steps from him...
He just texted an apology for coming and trying to start the talk.