I have to admit I am petrified of responding to my H in any way, because he is so talented in debate and manipulation. It's so frustrating to feel so hamstrung in communication with him. I often feel there is no way I can "win." Not meaning win the argument but meaning have him understand me, or care about what I say, or even just listen to what I say.
The only thing I can think of to do here, as one last attempt to make this peaceful, is to try to appeal to his narcissistic side. I would say that I agree that it could be a good learning experience for her, and I would feel much better with it if he could drive on the field trip so that I would know she is with someone I totally trust. (I just threw up in my mouth a little, but I can push past it.) I could also point out that she would LOVE to have some quality time with him and I know he misses her, so this would be a great opportunity for them both.
Thoughts?
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
