I'm just catching up on your thread. I'm not an expert but I'm going to hijack for a minute and circle back around. My h is currently a train wreck. There is no other way to state it. We have 3 kids under the age of 10 and he has not only left the building, but quite possibly the planet. My kids see this as well. I was not a great wife to h (major lack of intimacy) but am a great friend to h. Because I love him, I stay out of his way and leave him alone. I cannot make him do anything. Seriously, there is no angle to take. If he wants to chat he knows where to find me. I can only be the best me and take care of my little peeps.
This is truly difficult, but reading you sitch it appears that you analyze and look for angles on everything. It's just not possible. Nothing speeds this process up. Back off. If h wants to do something, he will do it. If he really wants to do it he won't talk about it but just do it. I only say this because it sounds like you are trying to force something to happen. Just back off. I know you work together but you can do this. Just let it happen and be the most magical Magic possible. If anything, this process teaches patience.
Just my 2 cents. Maybe it was 5 cents worth:)
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
