I disagree with him, and while I think it is fine to have differing opinions and parenting styles and theories, I find the way he presented it to be offensive and ignorant, as well as arrogant and manipulative. As far as manipulative, particularly the part where he tries to use my own words against me by essentially saying that if I don't agree with him or give him his way, then I am full of [censored] about saying that I have changed when it comes to being controlled by fear. It's like a trap. Just like how if I say "talk to my lawyer," that means I want war, or how, if I don't explain myself, he is FORCED to make negative assumptions about me and it's all my own fault.
The biggest problem for me isn't even what is in the email (though I do have a problem with much of it). It's the fact that I cannot communicate with him effectively unless I agree with what he says/thinks/wants.
I have no idea how to respond to this. I can go point by point the way he likes to do, but what good does that do? He will say things like, "oh, I recognize maybe there are other reasons for your actions," but look what the next line is. "I hope your email wasn't bullshit."
I have learned long ago that trying to explain myself is an utter waste of time, and all that happens is I get told how I am wrong and evil.
So what am I left with? I either give in to what he wants, or I'm a bitch. Right?
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
