Oh GB your H sounds like a hot mess right now. It's hard to watch someone you love spiral out of control. I rarely do any snooping anymore as it hurts too much and puts me in a mindset where I am short and angry and then our time together is always a bad experience.

Keep loving those kiddos and letting your H go on his journey.

Me:33 H:35
M: 12 years
D-15 S-6
Bomb: 6-2013
OW: 11/2013
Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair
Kids and I moved back in 12/2013
H moved out 2/2014