W said its over - Said I can't change her mind

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Nothing worse than knowing you are making changes and not having the W around to see them. I have come to the conclusion the W feels like she was trapped in our m. She has been acting like she never got to experience her single years as a younger woman. She wants to be able to come and go with nothing potentially holding her back. Or in other words do what she wants to do when she wants to do it without worrying about anyone else. She made the comment to me, "I guess I'm selfish because I'm going to pick myself over this M." It's like she has all of sudden said to herself, "I want to be single again and do as I please."

I have moved out of our old place, I couldn't handle being there by myself. She gave me my car key back and her key to our apartment. She has separted her bank account, changed her name on FB and deleted all the pictures of us on there. When I was cleaning our apt she had thrown away a lot of our old pictures and wedding pictures. It's very apparent she is trying to rid her memory of us at all. How can one person act like this?

It's almost like I wish I would have done something horrible, affair or crazy addiction so she could tell me why she is doing this. This simply comes down to her wanting to do what she wants to do and not have to answer to anyone.

I have been doing better in regards to GAL but I really struggle with the idea of her seeing things will be different if we reconcile when she has NC with me. She is so hard headed and won't listen or talk to anyone who has been in a similar Sitch. If she would step away from the Sitch and make a rational decision and not one based on current emotions things could be different. It feels like time is slipping away from me. Our M would be so good now with new tools, if she would just give us a chance but she is refusing.

Any help out there?