Just wanted to note a change that I saw in my H this week. Last week I asked my H about a trip that we have already planned and paid for that was coming up at the end of April. We booked it almost two years ago. H said that he had not thought about it. I figured that I would mention it once and then call the company to see what, if anything, we could do in order to not lose our money. Two days later, H sent me an email asking if we could possibly postpone the vacation to a later date.
I was shocked when I got the email because in the past I would have had to bug my H for a response. This was the first time that we had a discussion and he actually followed up and offered a solution without me nagging.
Today, I mentioned that the boys had a bunch of birthday parties coming up. H sat down, looked at the invites and wrote down all the dates/times. Despite the fact it is a few weeks away, H wanted to decide on which parties to attend and who would take the kids. H even offered to RSVP. This is the same man who claims he is not a planner.
I can see that my H is thinking about how he acted in the past and making some changes. Even if we don't wind up together, it will be helpful with co-parenting. Interesting...
