M and LFW - My boundary is very weak and transparent at times. I am struggling with it at the moment. It was so much easier a few months ago when I was so angry at H and could not stand to be around him.
Almost 90-95% of our conversations and interactions involve the kids. When we are together as a family on Sundays, our time is fully occupied by our little guys. We really don't talk much about our lives at all. Maybe a comment here or there. H leaves after the kids go to bed, so we dont have any time alone.
During our conversation, I try to be a friendly neighbor. I try and remain upbeat, etc. It is just go hard to walk this line between co-parents and friends. With three little kids, they take up a lot of time. We are also going into a busy spring season with both boys playing on different sports teams. I already know that this will likely impact our schedule with the kids. The kids need both H and I to see them playing sports. And logistically, I cant be at two places at the same time. So it will be even more difficult to enforce boundaries.
When I see my H, it no longer builds up my expectations. I realized at the beginning of 2014 that H was really done and has not plans of returning home right now or anytime soon. I can invite H to breakfast to allow the kids to see their dad and leave without being upset.
I honestly am not sure what to do. I think that I may call my DB coach and get some advice. I would appreciate your advice as well.
