Yeah, sounds like a tough one. When you do respond you'll somehow have to validate all of what your wife said while very politely and firmly re-stating your desire to set a parenting plan. Did your lawyer mention any avenues aside from divorce such as mediation? I also saw a legal separation mentioned by some of the others.
I believe there are other options available but my L thought they were a waste of time since in her view "D is inevitable". She may be right but I'm not going to rush toward filing for D if there are other things I can try first.
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS