Yeah, sounds like a tough one. When you do respond you'll somehow have to validate all of what your wife said while very politely and firmly re-stating your desire to set a parenting plan. Did your lawyer mention any avenues aside from divorce such as mediation? I also saw a legal separation mentioned by some of the others.
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014