Lost, I've been married 18 years too. My wife is out tonight more than likely with OM she claims only EA. She said she was meeting her girlfriend for dinner at 630 but it's now after midnight. Her girlfriend has an OM; she's been having an affair for over 3 years. I hate how all of my W's girlfriends are divorced or have OM. They are just enablers and have not helped our sitch. I used to text my W when she was out. I no longer do. You need to resist the urge. It won't change anything. I don't sleep much these days either. This forum is great for support. Be strong ..you can do it. I'll pray for you too.
Me: 47 Her: 45 M 18 years T 22 years S-6 D-9 Separate rooms 1/5/14 Wife filed for divorce 2/5/14