XW then responded "so I wasn't the evil person that she was probably expecting to meet?". I promptly said that I have never bad-mouthed her in the least to my IC. She said "Can you imagine how intimidating that was going in there by myself?".
It sounds like maybe she's accepting at least some degree of responsibility for things. If she felt totally absolved of all guilt I'd imagine she would have walked away from that IC session feeling like she got to prove how this was all your fault and wouldn't be asking you for an opinion of what the IC thought of her.
Is being 'stuck on her' really so bad? You are living life w/o her while keeping your heart open and the path back clear. I think that's a loving way to live. Also, she may not have done the work on herself, but she's still someone you committed your life to. We all want to see you happy and free of drama, but if accepting her as is gets you back to seeing your son daily and gets you closer to the life you want, maybe it's worth giving things another shot if she starts warming up to you again.
As always, only patience and time will tell you what she's thinking.
BD: Aug 2012 Separated since May 2013 S born Aug 2013 Aug 2013 H agrees to consider 'baby steps toward working things out' H is/was actively seeing someone?
