Is there any chance you could plan a boys weekend with some friends? That way you can keep up with your support but you disappear and she has to fend for herself.
Me: 31, W: 29 T: 4 M: 2 Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3) Separated, still living together: Nov 2013 Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014 W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014