unbidden - Thanks for your input. I agree that this isn't a battle I should choose. I do struggle accepting that it's just a story in my head. I know that he sees being late as disrespectful. He's always believed that and even said something about it since BD. These things that he's late to are things that he planned, so it isn't me pursuing. I find it very confusing. Regardless, I'll choose a different battle.

This weekend is H's weekend with D7. He asked if we could all have dinner tonight. I agreed, so he said he and D7 would come to our house. The night went ok, but I had trouble keeping a PMA, which he noticed. During dinner, D7 asked if she could stay with me instead of going home with H. In the 2 months that we've been S, this is the first time she's asked to stay with a different parent than planned. I did not respond because I wanted to defer to H since it was his scheduled time. He told D7 that mommy and daddy would talk about it. H and I went out of the room. He said that it didn't bother him and he wanted her to know that it was ok to ask for what she wanted. I told him that it was fine with me as I didn't have any plans. When it was time for H to go, he gave me a hug, which is something he's done consistently upon leaving since S and asked me to walk him to the door. I did and he gave me another hug and whispered for me to stop being so sad. D7 came up and wanted a family group hug, so we did that and then H left.

A few minutes after he left, D7 asked me why H and I were hugging so much. She asked if it was because we were getting divorced. I asked her why she asked that and where she heard it. She said it was just something she read in a book. I told her that mommy and daddy were just trying to figure some things out. She persisted with asking about divorce. I said again that we were just trying to figure some things out and said we could talk about it more with Daddy if she wanted. He and I have agreed to try to have these conversations as a family. She said, "but I don't want my parents to get divorced." I said, "I know sweetheart. I don't want that to happen either." She responded, "Maybe Daddy does." I reinforced that we were just trying to figure some grown-up things out and she dropped the subject.

I sent H a text message letting him know about her question. I didn't include any commentary; I just told him what she asked. His response was:

Why would she ask that? You told her no, right?

I told him what the rest of the conversation sounded like and he said that my answer to D7 was good. I'm very confused. His first response was to make sure that I didn't tell her yes, but just two days ago he was telling me that he definitely wanted a D. confused Not sure how to take that...