lol wonka... I wasnt suggesting Heather to switch teams.. the family of women is a group of women who support and mentor each other. Its just great for friendships too. So you don't feel alone.
GM & Heather... on the topic of wishing ex-h's to suffer. I used to be on board with that feeling as well. I too used to wish my ex some pain. Looking for Karma! For him to understand what it felt like to be on the hurt side. To my surprise, when his new marriage failed ~ guess who was the first person he called for support? Guess who "thought" she would be happy with this news? Guess who was wrong? I actually felt sorry for him, I could hear his pain. It did NOT make me feel any better.
No point in wasting energy feeling those feelings. I was shocked that I would have a change of heart, when it came right down to it.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
lol wonka... I wasnt suggesting Heather to switch teams.. the family of women is a group of women who support and mentor each other. Its just great for friendships too. So you don't feel alone.
I knew exactly what you meant...I was just having a little fun here!
Heather, you don’t need to defend yourself on this board. You are doing great. I think people just want to warn you about the dating, because they don’t want you to get hurt.
I personally think that you are doing awesome handling everything life throws at you. You definitely deserve some fun, and only can determine what it means for you.
I think you are just a little overwhelmed with the recent exchange with Smokey and your upcoming trip, this is why you have all these emotions coming out. I get it. I had a small meltdown the other night, when I could not reach my GF and my sister, and I needed to talk to someone. So, I felt very lonely and pi$$ed at the same time.
It is understandable that you don’t wish Smokey a happy life. There are so many of us on this board who feel the same about our spouses. I guess it is part of the process. I’m just now starting to feel a little bit more sympathy for my H, and it might be because I’ve seen him last weekend and he doesn’t look happy.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
You have helped others with financial formulas and child custody arrangements in MLC and elsewhere, I'd like to "borrow" you and ask if you would please mosey over to Scorp7's thread in Newcomers to assist him. This is a bit out of my depth as I have no kids myself.
While you're running in the meadows over there yonder, I thought I'd give you another pressie from the "crazy kids".
Ms. Wonka lately has increased her contacts with me...finding some little excuses here and there to contact me. I am just surfing on the STFU surfboard and minding my own business in riding the awesome waves! If you would recall from my previous posts, Ms. Wonka would reach out every month after I've done dark from our contacts. Now the length is getting shorter and shorter...just about every 2 weeks now. Hmmmmm...isn't that interesting?
We are in West "By Gawd" Virginia. Nice trip so far. I'm already relaxed. :-)
Dissolution, bills, students, crazy MLC men alllll seem very far away. I will see my baby sister tomorrow and she will hug me and give me love. Life is good. :-)
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
