[quote= I want him to miss me, miss his family but I'm worried he is taking this as me accepting what he wants. [/quote]

Lost, I know exactly how you feel. I get consumed with the same thoughts too but Sandi has set me straight. My W is still living with me and the kids and I want her to miss me and the family too which is probably even more difficult because she is here. Because of me working on LRT I too worried my W would think i accepted the sitch. But if your spouse wanted to get back with you, would you accepting the sitch make them not want to if indeed they did. I dont think so. You can't make your spouse miss you or the family. They have to realize that on there own. So just focus on yourself. I know it's so hard. I'm struggling too. I wish you all the best.


Me: 47
Her: 45
M 18 years
T 22 years
S-6 D-9
Separate rooms 1/5/14
Wife filed for divorce 2/5/14