Part of this whole thing is understanding that I am not the only one with opinions and wants. I don't want him to have a bike but the reason is not directly related to him. He has a point...why should he give up something he wants because of something that happened 34 years ago? If this is something he wants and it will make him "happy" then I am willing to release some fear and see how it goes.
He is very correct in that this has been more of a one sided relationship. I wanted a dog, he didn't....we got a dog.
He has asked what I had planned today. I told him since it is supposed to be an awesome weekend I wanted to get the kids out of the house. Time to figure out what we are doing today!
Me: 33 / H: 36 M: 10y / T: 14y 3 kids BD: 2/22/14 Live in separation 3/8/14 H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14 H moved out 4/25/14 2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month