Oh 3B....Heads up Doll...Eyes on the future type moment here.
I don't know what your H is doing with his cash, and nor should you worry about it. The fact is he is spending less money out of an account you both share....You part of that is only that there is enough money in that account to meet his obligations to the boys and you.
As to where/how he is getting his spending money, I hate to sound harsh but that is really his business. It doesn't mean he is hiding it from you....It just means he is taking care of his own finances. This is one of those things about worrying about the things you control. You get to make sure that there is enough money for his obligations to you and the boys, but how he deals with the rest of his money isn't really your business and out of your control.
As long as you are getting the obligations met, you really can't worry about what he does with his money unless....and only unless....You start seeing evidence of large unagreed upon purchases. Say like week long trips to the Caribbean, motorcycles, or a new Ferrari. And even then you have to be tactful about it.
This is the reality of a separation and divorce....Not fun and I am sorry that things have gotten here for you.
That said, you have stated you want more out of life and relationship....So keep an eye on the prize.
