One of the things that both H and I have done since BD is take the 5LL quiz. He took it because I asked him to, not because he's certain he wants to work on things. My primary LL is physical touch, followed closely by quality time. H's is words of affirmation. His second LL is also quality time. I'm working on not pursuing, but also trying to use his LL, words of affirmation, some. Frankly, it's something I s*ck at. I have found several opportunities to casually make positive remarks on something he's done with D7. I felt this was a good step because it is one of the area's that I've definitely been overly critical of in the past. Any other tips on using words of affirmation with an H who has moved out?
