I added the option of separate bdays:

"For birthdays and other special events can we plan to come together for the kids? Possibly plan them together as well? Our kids would be so happy to have both of us with them for these things. Otherwise, we could adjust the schedule to ensure that the kids are with one of us for one year and then the other parent the next year."


Me-40,W-37
D7, D5, S3
Separated Oct 3/2013
T 11 YRS
M 7 YRS