The last couple of days I have been reading through the forums and getting more questions in my head than answers.

I've begun doing some of the items from Sandi's list but again unsure if they really apply here. Still somewhat confused. Any guidance would be great.

Me: 40
W: 39
D: 16
S: 21
R: 20 Years (married 18)
9/2013 W indicated that she wanted to leave.