I know 100% it is against DR/DB 'rules' to show more affection during this time. Like previously mentioned, this would be a huge 180 in our relationship. One complaint was that we became room mates / friends raising children. I agree completely. Yesterday when I was happy, supportive, and positive...without going in for intimate contact or saying I love you...he seemed to enjoy it. He even brushed his hand across my back at one point. Then, at the end of the day, he asked if I had a lawyer because "this is a 180 from what you are usually like."
This is where my brain fuzzes up. We see each other many times throughout the day now. He wants a warm, happy, inviting, positive wife. Would it be inappropriate for this stich to act the happy person he wants...being engaging and interested in life ...be everything he wants but leave out the clingy begging pushing neediness? Leave out words like M, R, ILY, future, plans, etc.
Our recent interactions have been distant, necessary, almost mechanical with little to no warmth and smiles. Following the DR I will be happy and everything but I will be uninterested and non-engaging with him....which honestly would just be how things have been for at least a year now. Which is one reason why he has decided to entertain the idea of splitting.
If I am way off the mark, I am more than happy to humble myself to the veterans! I just don't know what I am doing this time.
Me: 33 / H: 36 M: 10y / T: 14y 3 kids BD: 2/22/14 Live in separation 3/8/14 H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14 H moved out 4/25/14 2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month
