It is a tough decision. Part of me wants to take the ring off because I feel if I leave it on, then I'm showing her I'm waiting around, and it feels like I'm protecting her from questions. The one thing is the pictures up is good for my kids. My three year old just asked me why mommy isn't coming home. It's tough to hear from them. I wish they would ask her
I think I ultimately have been taking it on or off to get a reaction out of her. Which is completely wrong. In fact the first time I did it it backfired, and she took hers off, and hasn't put them back on. Lesson learned the hard way. I understand it's a personal decision, and a tough one. In terms of moving on, it's tricky to know what is and feels best. I'll wrestle a bit with this.
Starsky, she doesn't seem to think a schedule is a good idea. Really, I think she's being selfish, as she has a rotating schedule, so it will be a nightmare for her, with absolutely no support. I worry about the safety of my kids a bit. I don't want them being used as pawns to have her realize what she is doing. However the reality of a divorce is she will not have my support when she has the kids. They are my number one concern. Another tough thing to think about. No one said this was easy
Thanks again everyone for the advice and comments. Sure is nice to bounce things off the people here
