Question - I am the one that usually monitors our bank account statements. We have not split any of our finances. I have noticed over the past couple of weeks that there are limited charges showing up on the statements from my H. My H used to go out to lunch every day and eat out each night. Now the only thing on the account is if he takes the kids out to eat. I know that my H does not carry cash. So either by H is never eating or he is paying for personal things out of his business bank account or has opened a separate account so that I don't see the transactions.
Do I ask my H about this? I don't care about the money, but I care if he is deliberately trying to hide transactions and/or is separating finances without telling me.
(P.S. I am sleep deprived so I typing this made my eyes fill with tears because I don't know how we got to this place. I used to trust this man with my life and know I trust nothing).
