Thanks MIC. I agree about not getting emotional about the finances, that has been hard. I may have to just let the lawyers handle some of this directly.
I do think that my H and I can divide most of our physical belongings without too much disagreement, it is just so hard to believe that it has come to this. I wish I had a time machine to go back and work on things. I was pretty proud, in retrospect, of both of us being pretty fair. My H negotiates and manages people for a living and he was managing me, but I did not let it bother me. I broke down after the call, but I'm trying to feel and let go.
H is home tonight for the weekend. It was easier when I was full of hurt/anger, I could ignore him. Now that we are interacting and talking (he is actually more polite now) it is harder to detach.
I'm so much better than a month ago, but still have so far to go. I'm going to work on being awesome over the weekend, even if I don't feel like it. We agreeed to work on our inventory lists for our lawyers so we will see how that goes.
M45 H46 M16 yrs D17, D10, D7 DB 1-23-2014 H filed D 2-14-2014