Originally Posted By: labug
Good to see this. Sounds like you're pretty good. (I skipped over some of the W stuff, she is who she is smile ) You and your L seem to be handling things well.

I've known many Dd folks who had to forgo Rs for awhile because of their kids and money. It is what it is. There are lots of less costly things you can find to do.

This is such a great step! One thing I do differently is how I handle it, with W I would attempt to passive aggressively make her feel guilty about her past. It was a very negative and destructive behaviour. Now I use my C's meditation principals, feel the feeling and let it leave my head. That can change your life and your kids lives. Keep it up.

You are still learning, we all are. When we stop we stagnate.

Best of luck. (( ))


I am disappointed that I'm not as advanced as I thought I was but yes the change in behaviour is a great step in the right direction. I'm hoping the learned, practised behaviour can become normal everyday behaviour over time.

Thanks Bug


M36 W31
S4 S2
T5 M4
BD Jan12 S July12
Recon Sep12-Nov12
ILBINILWY Jan13
OM x 2 in 2013
W wants R July 13
I start D. Jan 14.
Meet GF Nov 13
Have I changed enough? Jul 14

The World is still My Oyster!