I'm new at this but if he already thinks your living separate lives shouldn't you be doing 180s to involve him in your life now. Have you talked to a DB coach tet. They are a great help as are so many members of the boards and the vets.
W-38 H-42 T-11 M-8 C-6,2,6 months BD-Oct 1 2013 DFiled-Jan 6 2014 Went Dark - April 4, 2014