melissa

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I think part of the issue may be that I don't automatically see all WASs as having 2 heads, a 3rd eye and smelling like death. (abuse, substance or physical is in a different category.) They are who they are with all their warts, just like we are. We married them for a reason, had children with them for a reason, and while they may have changed, so have we. And if we married them knowing that we didn't like some of their warts but thought they would change and now here we are, we can't really blame that on them. We do have to accept where we are and have a plan for how to move forward from that

I really don't like to spend a lot of time talking about the WAS because the only way we can effect change in them is through change in us.

My brand of support may not work for you and that's OK. I do want you to get through this in the best way possible.