Thanks Sandi ...everything you said is spot on. Yeah I was planning to just take a novel to coffee shop so she couldn't go out. Was me trying to control her/the situation.

Your right on the significant time piece too ...i dont need time to do it just should be in all my actions.

And you are right on the kids too. The W was in bed with them so I went on the other side of the kids of course very well knowing that she would not react negatively towards me in front of the kids..

And your right too ...i dont want a women who doesn't love me ...but I guess by my actions I am hoping my W will come around and love me again.

Thanks so much for your post! I'm getting it! My W texted me again today wanting to know if I'd be out late ..i guess I'll text her back and let her when I truly will be home.

Me: 47
Her: 45
M 18 years
T 22 years
S-6 D-9
Separate rooms 1/5/14
Wife filed for divorce 2/5/14