I think I belong here....

[praying_in_GA]

When I got home from work yesterday, we had nice light conversation. I spent the day happy and positive with every interaction. By the end of the day he was worried I had some sort of plan to ruin him because I was being sweet and happy. This morning I tried to cut it shorter while still being upbeat and nice.

I hate to say this but the reason things seem the same around here is because this is what has happened to our marriage. We live together and we raise our kids and occasionally we act like we are married. The only difference between then and now is we don't hug, kiss, or exchange "I love you"s Earlier this week I asked him how we were supposed to interact with each other during this "live in separation(?)" and he said it wouldn't be any different than our everyday life already. It shouldn't shock me, but he is right.

So, I'm thinking I continue the light/happy/positive persona (who doesn't want to be a happy and positive person). I will not initiate the conversation and will respond in a nice but concise way when he interacts with me. I will immerse myself into my world and my kids. I will make plans to stay busy without including him in the details. When he asks what we are doing (we being the kids and me) today I will again respond happy with short responses. No long, drawn out conversations. No inviting him along. No asking what he has planned.

What about when we are home at night. Typically we will watch tv together, play with the kids randomly, and/or I will surf the internet while he watches the latest sports games. Usually he will study off and on. Well, this afternoon starts spring break so he will be home quite a bit more. Should I try to do things away from him? Instead of our usual perches on the couch with tv remote or computer in hand....what do you suggest?