I don't think that my H's responses were rude or anything, it's just that (as I knew before we ever spoke) we don't agree on this decision. So I can respond to him point by point like he did, and then he can do the same and we can go back and forth, but the end result is that we just don't agree, and someone has to decide - which is why I wanted to know if it is my place to decide. I think it is, since I have my D9 that day.
However, I will try to get his agreement rather than phrasing it as me being in charge. Perhaps with something like your response #1. I am hopeful that he won't decide to pick this battle . . . I don't think he will, but then again I didn't ever expect a lot of the crap he has done lately, so I guess we'll find out!
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
