Working on Divorce Busting every Day!

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I go to nurse my son every morning. We have agreed that since I'm nursing I can come in and be with Charlie. I chose the morning since it is easier has he takes the oldest to school. I had also told him he could have his dad here so him and I don't have to communicate. Even though I pump we both felt it was beneficial that my son gets the mother/son bonding time like the others. I know I could have legally kept my son with me a lot more but I did not feel that was in the best interest of our children since that means they would always be separated.
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As for the lust comment he has repeatedly told me it is all lust for him and during BD he told me that all the sex while amazing cemented even further he can never love me the way a man should love his wife. To be honest and this is sad but hearing him continually say I never loved you is just getting old.
He told me yesterday that he was such a pit of despair at the end our marriage he did turn to the woman I had wondered about ,for advice about what to do in his marriage and why he can't love me ? EA? He stated he now has spoken to her in months.
He also told me yesterday that he really really likes me as a person and a mom but he can't love me. He agrees that the divorce is probably not in the best interest of our children but the only way he can survive is to be free from the marriage.
He was shocked that our oldest was drawing pictures about getting us back together and talking to a few friends about what she's dealing with. I was trying to explain why the school asked for counseling for her. He stated it can't hurt.
He believes we should frame it as now she gets 2 of everything.
He said he is getting tired of living out of a suitcase and glad when this part is over and the kids will be the ones in the car because they can just hop in the car and have everything at both homes.
Also our 2 girls birthdays are coming up and the girls wanted both of us there which is great BUT he wants his whole family at both. He said we can make this divorce anything we want. I tried to explain in a divorce you are no longer a family. He has this Pollyanna view of divorce.
Suggestions about the party. I feel awkward inviting his whole family. I already suggested he just come and then his family could have their own party also.
I asked if he'd read any books on divorce and dealing with the kids through this and the effects. If he was seeing a therapist to help him transition. He knows I'm seeing an IC but not about divorce busting.
His answer. He's just to busy with work to deal with all of this right now. Really??? I just said ok but we need to do our best by our kids.
Okay that was a book;)