Hi, thanks for giving me some time before responding to your last email.
Thanks for letting me know about D6's immunizations. I agree that it is a good idea for her to have them done and having them done at the private clinic is likely best.
Great to hear that the RESP is getting setup for S2.
I would rather we not deal with the financial matters until we can agree on a parenting plan for our kids.[I think Melissa's suggestions are good. Replace this with one of her suggestions]
Here is a schedule I will agree to regarding sharing time with our kids. This would be contingent on my moving to the Ws Home Town area.
April 4 to April 11- W April 11 to April 18 - Scorp April 18 to April 25 - W April 25 to May 2 - Scorp May 2 to May 9 - W May 9 to May 16 - Scorp May 16 to May 23 - W May 23 to May 30 - Scorp May 30 to June 6 - W June 6 to June 13 - Scorp June 13 to June 20 - W June 20 to June 27 - Scorp June 27 to July 4 - W (this would continue indefinitely)
[Too much information. Pare this down. Again, Melissa's suggestion is good.]
In the event one of us was unable to care for the kids during the time they were with us the other parent would be the first option to care for the kids. For example, if you needed to be away for work or some other event and could not care for the kids during that time then the kids would be with me.
For birthdays and other special events we could adjust the schedule to ensure that the kids are with one of us for one year and then the other parent the next year. An example of this would be for D4's birthday this year, the schedule would have our kids with me so we would agree that next year, regardless of how the weekly schedule worked out, our kids would be with you.
[Above suggests that you will be separate in celebrating their birthdays...how about you propose you two come together and organize their birthdays together. Be the bigger person here and offer this. Then wait and see what W says about this offer. Rework this part. What do you think?]
Also, I have heard about an online service called Family Wizard, http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/ofw/, which looks like a great way for us to potentially deal with communication. Here are some of the features of the service, http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/ofw/index.cfm/features/. It looks to be a good way to handle communication through a third party service.
[This is not helpful at all. You are trying to control W's preferred method of communication. STFU. It is her choice. Your goal is to continue being positive and pleasant in your communications with W. In time, she'll see how silly she has been for hiding behind her MIL. ]
I hope we can be friends and great parents to our kids.
[Perhaps say: As you would agree, it is important for our children to have equal time with their parents. We both love them to bits! What are your thoughts on this proposed plan?]
