H: I would rather she not miss a piece of the curriculum. My inclination would be to send her. Is your concern for the long drive?[/i
M: [i]The car sickness, the eight hours in the car (seems excessive to me), the 6:30 a.m. drop off. If she doesn't go, XX (her teacher) will give her homework to do that day so she will learn about it.
H: [i]She's generally OK with sickness in the car as long as she doesn't read. Maybe we can get her an audiobook to listen to. The 6:30 drop off doesn't seem like a big deal. Sometimes we all need to get up early. Not the end of the world. And I think you get a much different impact from actually seeing it than you do from reading about it.
That's fine, he has his opinion. He is factually wrong about D9's car sickness. She does get sick reading on short rides, but on long rides she gets sick regardless. (My H blows off things like this all the time - he doesn't believe the kid's complaints about anything physical unless there is blood or a bone sticking out.)
I agree with him that seeing things is generally better than reading about them, but in this case that doesn't overcome my concerns about how far away it is.
The bottom line is, I really just don't feel comfortable with her going on this trip. He can give me all the logic in the world, and I can give myself all the logic in the world, but that won't overcome my gut instinct that I just don't like it.
There are a lot of things I don't like that my H does with the kids, but I have kept my mouth shut about them. This one, I won't.
To answer someone's question from yesterday, generally most parents (Moms) complain to each other about these kinds of field trips. A few don't care. Some will not like it but will send their kid anyway. Some will send their kid but only if they can drive. (I can't drive because I have a vestibular disorder and four hours would definitely get me dizzy.) And a few will keep their kids home.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
