Since my life is a real sh!t show this week, thought I'd come by and try to control yours. And since I'm kidding, that's the last smile you'll see from me right now.
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He asked my concerns, I told him. He explained why each one of them was wrong. (Shocking.) I was super busy all day yesterday so I shot over a quick text to him to be polite, and said, "I'm not ignoring you, I'm just thinking." A while later, he sent me a text that said, "I'm not ignoring you, I'm just waiting for you to think."
Last night, we had TKD, nothing was said about it. (I didn't really think it should be discussed in front of D9.)
He must have just dropped the kids off at school and send me this text:
You're not going to pretend to think about this for awhile while you're secretly talking to your lawyer and then file something with a court to screw me again, are you?
Melissa, you're H is a real a$$hole. And now that I've said that, I'll tell you what I'd do. I'm not offering advice here, but if it works for you, then consider it free. For what it's worth. So, if this were me and my XH, here goes.
"I needed time to think - without a lawyer - because I addressed my concerns with you and you presented me with an itemized verbal list of why they weren't valid. I honestly didn't know where to proceed from there. I don't know if you think you're adding levity to the situation by joking, but I don't find this funny. Our kids are reeling from all of this, and I'm barely able to function. That being said, when I asked for your thoughts, I was truly hoping that you were serious about co-parenting together rather than dismiss my concerns. So what's it going to be?"
After reading what you wrote yesterday, have you addressed that insane quantity of field trips with the school directly? Unless she goes to the RM Expeditionary School, I have to agree with you that it's overkill. I understand that schools feel field trips add to the experience, but not that many. IMHO, the sheer quantity of field trips sound disruptive to learning...
Remember the part in DB/DR where Michelle says, "Ask for what you want". It's a good rule of thumb. And I see no downside for you speaking plainly about what YOU want right now. 'Cause his way svcks.
Have a great trip!
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
And since I'm kidding, that's the last smile you'll see from me right now.