melissa

[Scorp7]

I think most WASs tell themselves they are the victim and that they had no choice but to do what they've done. They don't seem to consider that working on the M is a real option with the potential for a very happy outcome. Instead, they create a fantasy world of a future that, as long as it doesn't include the LBS, will be much better than the life they had.

My W didn't act self absorbed outwardly toward me but I'm sure she had become that way before she left and didn't express it. Now that she's gone she is very much self absorbed. I don't know if she realizes it but she's totally thinking of herself and herself only. She's getting a lot of encouragement to be that way as well. A lot of the "you have to do what's best for yourself so you can be happy". That's great except when it comes at the expense of our kids.