Thanks, Scorp. When I read your posts, yes, I see that your W and my H have a very similar attitude - they each think that they have gotten this all figured out (the way they want it, but they see it as "the right way") and expect that we should sign off on their delusional fantasies.
I doubt that my H will ever look in the mirror. It is so much easier to blame me. He even said to me about a week ago, "OK, I'll take all the blame with the kids, but between you and me, I never wanted this."
The insinuation being that he is the poor victim who had no choice but to leave. I guess that leaves me as the perpetrator.
Was your W self absorbed before she left? My H always has been, that's why I am doubtful he will ever change.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
