My W told the MC & me she wants a D today. We went together about 4 weeks ago then the MC met with each of us separately a week ago.
Yes, unfortunately this is usually the result of going to MC with a WAS. It pushes them to make a decision faster, and inevitably that decision is S or D. I would suggest you stop MC ASAP. Leave your W alone, give her time and space. MC is pressure and she doesn't want pressure. She will respond to pressure the exact opposite of how you want her to respond, it never goes your way.
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My W wants to separate but wants me to leave the house and I've said before that I can't let our son watch me leave. So I guess the only way that she feels that she can have space is by me being gone. I did tell her if she needed space - she should go and I would support her decision.
Good! Hold your ground. If she wants S, then SHE needs to make the difficult choices involved with that. Do not let her browbeat you into leaving. She will probably say stuff like "well if you leave then I will consider reconciling, but if you don't leave then that tells me what kind of person you are and I will NEVER come back to you." Don't believe any of it, it's like a pouty little kid having a temper tantrum when they don't get their way.
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This is going to tear our son apart. How is the best way to handle this? Tell him we both love him but W & I can not live together.
He's 4? I would consult with a child therapist about it (along with your W), at that age it's very difficult to communicate what's going on to him.
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She has lots of free time to do as she pleases because of the hours I work. I have been giving her as much space as possible within our home.
Giving adequate time and space when both are under one roof is all but impossible. These situations rarely resolve with both parties living together.
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When she said she wanted to D. I just told her I understand her and will support whatever decision she wants - no begging, pleading or bringing up what I feel is best for our son.
Very good! Keep that up! Consistency is important.
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Thinking I should see a lawyer tomorrow just to prepare for the worst while I continue to GAL and work on me.
Absolutely. No need to tell W, it's just for your info.
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Should I let that drop until she brings it up? Hope for the best and plan for the worst?
Yes and yes.
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Should my posts go to a different forum now?
No, it's fine to post here as long as you want. You can see how long I've been here and my threads are still in this forum (although I do plan on moving after the D is completed).
