"i need to see the action"

No.

you need to just let him do his thing, and stop hyper-analyzing.

if he's mlc, and confused, and whatever else you say he is, then trying to figure out what he's doing is a fools errand.

Those who have gone thru this have told you it will be YEARS before he figures it out. and you're only a few weeks in.

"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".