you control it by fixing yourself so you're not displeased in the first place.
but you havent done this yet. you're still impatient. you dont truly listen. you find fault with minor details so that you can write off the rest of the topic. you still hear only what you want to hear, then you give yourself false expectations. and then you cant understand why you're disappointed. you ask a question until you get the answer you want, not the right answer. you're still obsessed with manipulating him into reconciliation. take responsibility for your part in the breakdown of the relationship and fix those issues. go and do the work to become emotionally independent. go and do the work to separate yourself from him financially. stop worrying about him and what he's doing.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
