Paul, now that you have confirmation that it was always this way to people outside your relationship, let it go. You had a R with your W, it worked for a while, you both have faults, the R suffered. It's painful.
"I loved my wife and wanted the marriage to work both for me and the family. I feel good about the work I've put into the marriage. I will focus on the positives of moving on because I know that's what's best."
Do you have a plan for how you're going to deal with the destructive tattling from both your D and you W? A great project for you and your T.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss