Yes, d16 and s20 are #1. M is probably a goner (anyone want to bet?), but R with W not necessarily so, plus I gain some self respect for pushing back, so nothing changes on that front.

The gratifying thing is that I really can push back, perhaps not in the best way, but I can! Yes, I probably overestimate the power of these pushes.

Humor? Dorothy Parker:

"I like to have a martini,
Two at the very most.
After three I'm under the table,
after four I'm under my host".

I am paid in the US, and W has no access to account there. We have one shared acct here. I get a bonus in the summer (knock on wood), so will be divorced before then. If W stops putting her salary in our shared account, then so do I (most of it is in the US just now anyway).

Luke

M58, xW54
S22, D18
M 1984, D 2016
Living a new life.