Hi CW - thank you I agree on the process, before I came to these boards I thought to myself "oh maybe he'll come back after a short separation" but then after educating myself on MLC, I am pretty convinced he is in one and know that this is something that literally takes years. I didn't think I could wait years, but after processing it and being alone now, I'm not ready to close the door so I will leave it open and just patiently wait but in the meantime living my life. It has been a whole 2 months since BD which was totally out of the blue, so it feels like 6 months dragging on but at the same time - wow it was a lot to process in such a short time frame! I have to accept I may not hear from him again for ages if ever. Just taking the advice of so many on here and GAL and finding myself. I feel like i'm adjusting and doing ok. Making small changes, baby steps. I don't have to do it all at once. I have plenty of time - I finally "get" that "gift of time" quote. So no matter what happens I will come out stronger and happier in the end. Keeping a PMA!!!
Me - 42 exH - 56 Married 10.5 years Together 17 bomb dropped 1/6/14 signed papers 2/4/14 H moved out 2/22/14 D final 4/4/14 Dropped the rope 5/17/14 2 cats, 2 dogs
I agree on the process, before I came to these boards I thought to myself "oh maybe he'll come back after a short separation" but then after educating myself on MLC, I am pretty convinced he is in one and know that this is something that literally takes years. I didn't think I could wait years, but after processing it and being alone now, I'm not ready to close the door so I will leave it open and just patiently wait but in the meantime living my life. It has been a whole 2 months since BD which was totally out of the blue, so it feels like 6 months dragging on but at the same time - wow it was a lot to process in such a short time frame! I have to accept I may not hear from him again for ages if ever. Just taking the advice of so many on here and GAL and finding myself. I feel like i'm adjusting and doing ok. Making small changes, baby steps. I don't have to do it all at once. I have plenty of time - I finally "get" that "gift of time" quote. So no matter what happens I will come out stronger and happier in the end. Keeping a PMA!!!
