Shopping with your d can be a thing you do AND your w can shop with her another time. This is your dad/daughter time. Period.
You might not have to cut her out of it EXCEPT your wife makes cutting remarks like the one she made when you gave your D the poem/ & shopping trip was inside too? Was it the bag she objected to??)
Anyhow, your w got herself Uninvited, b/c she cuts you down in front of your d, so why on earth would you invite her? And it's appropriate to tell her this!
"W, you b1tch at me even when I'm giving D a gift on HER birthday! Of course it's harmful for her to see that AND I'm not going to put up with your carping at me anymore. Besides, What kind of mother puts her anger ahead of her d's joy?"
Hearing her mom cut you down like that is sh1tty to do at the time of a gift presentation. THIS gift took you time to make the poem and will take you more time-shopping. Your w was way out of line and didn't do your d any favors making that remark. So "clearly shopping separately makes the most sense." And btw, her guess about your gift was wrong, too.
I'm happy your d liked it. That's something that will "age well" as a gift for she'll keep it forever.
Luke, start separating funds soon if you have not already. Otherwise you'll be funding your wife's personal purchases as well as things she buys for others...til she's finally out the door. WE CARE LUKE...and I swear I'm not telling you to do anything I don't believe you can do. I believe in what you can do, perhaps more than you.
Hang in there b/c I think you may be able to salvage something with your daughter.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
