Hi, I'm new here and I realize that I might be posting in the wrong place… I'm a 29 year old M, my W of 6 years got involved in an A with a mutual friend of ours (also married) that she is in a band with. The A started somewhere towards the end of last year. I picked up that things are not right especially with the OM at our house the whole time! Also allot on late nights on band business. My W denied having an A when I confronted her. I discovered the evidence this January and confronted her, she confessed to the A and said she was in love with the OM and that she want a D. I also made all the early day mistakes but got good solid advice from my friends and church. I am working on me:) She is currently living in our house, I have moved out and is staying with friends. I want to move back, but she said she would then move out. She said she would stop the relationship with the OM but still wants a D, but it has been two months and she has not taken any steps towards a D. when I ask her about it she would say that she is still unsure and confused. We see each other two or three times a week in "scheduled" meetings. She will also be seeing the OM at least two time over the week for band related commitments she does not want to cancel. I love my W dearly and wants reconciliation. I have a lot of clarity about what I did wrong in our M and I am fully committed to doing thing differently. My big question: should I move back? I am worried that things are to comfortable for my W. My W used to work for a Co that I am an owner of, but is now on part time working from home. She is looking for a job and it looks like finances is a big issue for her now. The OM does not have a job/stable income. Things are dragging out.. She does not want to reconcile but is not moving forward with D. She is saying she wants the D because of the things that was wrong in our M, but I know that the OM is still a big consideration in her mind. Maybe moving back will push things in a direction? Apologies for grammar/spelling mistakes, English is not my first language..
Any advise?
Thanks for all who are sharing, I am getting a lot of encouragement on this site!
