Second....If you want to save the marriage, why are you pushing the filing still? Seriously man...I want to save my marriage but I filed the divorce paperwork. That is just unorthodox if you ask me.
Fourth...This is my big hang up. You take care of those kids regardless of what your wife is doing!!!! Kids come first period....by watching them you are not doing stuff for your wife.....YOU ARE BEING a parent taking care of your kids!!!!
You need to decide....ae you going to DB or not?
First off I did not file for divorce my W did. I have been responding to the papers. What am I suppose to do. I have to respond.
I want to try and clear this up. I can now see how my previous post came across. I was not intending to act like it was a chore to take care of my boys. I love my boys and have always spent a lot of time with the, pre and post BD, Pre -BD we did everything as a family, ate dinner together every night, went on bike rides, the beach, boating, parks, you name it. We took great care of our boys and when not at work, we were always together.
I now realize I had resentment towards WAW and it blatantly came through in my post. She use to be around a lot more, we split the responsibilities. It hurt me everytime my boys asked when's mom coming home? Why is mom always gone? Is she going to tuck us in? Can I wait up for her? Etc etc.
Even though it might have come across as such, I never thought of taking care of my boys as a chore. I was upset that this once doughting mother who in 10 years rarely missed a bedtime routine and then post-DB was never around. Yes I know that is my issue. I'm getting it now.
Do I realize now that I was focusing WAY to much on her and what she was or wasn't doing? Absolutely, I felt abandoned, I felt she abounded the kids. Again this is on me, I'm realizing that.
Me: 39 W: 33 M: 9 years T: 10 years S7 S10 BD 10/19/13 W Filed 11/25/13 EA Confirmed 2/2/14 (no evidence of PA) WAW moved out 3/15/14
