I spoke with my marriage coach tonight and we came up with a good approach to how I can respond to my W. I think my W is likely feeling like if she opens up to me I will start to pursue her again. If I agree with my W that I don't think a R is possible (I don't really feel that way of course) that she might feel more inclined to open up and communicate a bit more freely with me. If I just tell my W I hope we can be friends and good parents to our kids (I do definitely want that) she may agree.
I think it's a good idea.
Me-40,W-37 D7, D5, S3 Separated Oct 3/2013 T 11 YRS M 7 YRS