It has been quite a day. My W told the MC & me she wants a D today. We went together about 4 weeks ago then the MC met with each of us separately a week ago. I guess my W just needed the emotional support to get it off her chest. I am so thankful to have read DB and most of DR by the time we went back to the MC. She told the MC she was 90% sure. So I still have a chance...lol.
My W wants to separate but wants me to leave the house and I've said before that I can't let our son watch me leave. So I guess the only way that she feels that she can have space is by me being gone. I did tell her if she needed space - she should go and I would support her decision. Said she has been unhappy for years.
This is going to tear our son apart. How is the best way to handle this? Tell him we both love him but W & I can not live together.
I think I have sometime before that conversation...
She has lots of free time to do as she pleases because of the hours I work. I have been giving her as much space as possible within our home. I have been doing the 180's and will continue.
When she said she wanted to D. I just told her I understand her and will support whatever decision she wants - no begging, pleading or bringing up what I feel is best for our son.
Thinking I should see a lawyer tomorrow just to prepare for the worst while I continue to GAL and work on me. I had been working on the connection based on another online site (talk charges/touch charges etc.) but now feel that just pushed her further away.
She is defiantly involved in a EA. I am at peace with whatever she decides. It seemed after she said she wanted a D that she was surprised by my response - but I'm not really sure what to think tonight.
I picked up our s from after school care and had dinner and played bb before putting him to bed. She just got home and asked how I was doing. I told her I was fine but now we have lots of things to talk about. Not sure if that was the right thing to say.
Should I let that drop until she brings it up? Hope for the best and plan for the worst?
Should my posts go to a different forum now?
Any advice would be appreciated from someone who has been there.
Me: 55, W: 46 T: 17 M: 15 S: 10 3 S prev M 25 23 21 Unhappy 10/12 Asked to move out 1/14 NILWY 2/14 Sep rooms: 1/14 BD 3/14 W filed 5/14 Trial 12/14
