I'm back again 4 years later

[praying_in_GA]

Okay. So I have been happy and positive all all day. He is going for a job interview tomorrow and it looks very promising. I mentioned that he doesn't need to worry about the bills once he is bringing in some money. I said he could just help with groceries and that way he would also have spending money. He looks up and says "Have you talked to a lawyer? You are a complete 180 from what you have been." I told him that I have done some soul searching and decided I needed to stop holding him back from things that may make him happy. I told him it would be good for him to have spending money instead of working for bills and that I have the house covered anyway. He asked if I was concerned about abandonment if he goes to the Navy. I am confused by this question and still don't understand it.

Probably wasn't a good idea but I text him and said "If have consulted a lawyer, let me know so I can do the same." he responded with "I haven't but you can go ahead." I told him I would prefer that we wait. I said that things don't have to be black or white... There are shades of gray. His response "shades you may like?" I was thoroughly confused so I just responded with "Maybe"