ok Ken... I will accept it is what happened, possibly in h's mind too, but how am I supposed to control that?...like I said, that particular time it wasn't intentional.. it was my silent reaction. H knows me for 20 years. He could see it in my expression. I can't be expected to have a poker face in front of a person who has known me for that long... its impossible.
i am not sure I can agree with you on the words he is saying. He is saying that he wants to talk, because he wants to talk. He insists on this. This is said not because of MY steering. It is said because HE says so. His offerings for time together, beer/dinner...is HIS offering.
I don't believe he would bother to suggest beer/hangout/dinner is to tell me he doesn't want to... thats f-d up!
I will sit back and wait for his next guesture. I do believe there is a real switch here, efforts and words coming from him...on his terms. His comfort level. Yes, he is still "talking" about asking me out... I am not sure why they aren't "actions" as yet. This is typical of his behaviour over the years. He "talked" about picking up flowers on the way home or buying me a ring....
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
